Friday, July 23, 2010

The Secret Life of the American with Chronic Illness


My house is an absolute wreck! I live in constant fear that someone will stop by my house and find out that I'm not Susie Homemaker. I like things very neat, clean, and uncluttered. And I'm a classic germophobe. So it's not like I'm oblivious to the mess or don't care to address it. At the moment I'm just overwhelmed. Last month I was hospitalized for heart problems, and my sister came from Michigan and stayed with me for about a month to help out. While she was here, she did nearly all of the cooking and cleaning. Then, it took me about a week or so just to rest and recuperate from her visit. (And if you have chronic illness, you know what I'm talking about: is there anything that DOESN'T take a week of recovery?) Also, she and I tended to stay up late at night talking, watching movies, playing board games, etc., which is great except for the fact that it wreaked havoc with this narcoleptic's sleep patterns.

I look around and see piles of laundry that needs folding, furniture that needs dusted, carpet that needs vacuumed, and dishes that need washed and put away. And I don't know where to start. Of course, telling you about it isn't getting it done either. I guess I just felt I needed to confess the huge secret mess that is behind my front door. You probably think less of me now than before, when I seemed perfect and you thought I had it all together. But this is my reality. Sadly, there will probably never be a time when I will be caught up on all of the household chores and would feel great if unexpected company just showed up. That's just a part of my life that I have to learn to accept. I don't know that I'll ever be completely okay with it.

So today it is my goal to get ONE room in my house clean and clutter-free, and if I can accomplish this through God's strength, then I will choose to be content in that. And if you happen to stop by and see all the other rooms in my home, please don't judge me too harshly. I'm doing the best I can, and everything else will just have to stay messy until I get to it.

"Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for men" ~Colossians 3:23

Thursday, July 15, 2010

The Witness by Josh McDowell: A Book Review



Marwan Accad, owner of a posh international security firm, suddenly finds himself on the run after disclosing to his client that his wife's kidnapping was actually staged as a plot to extort millions from him. Narrowly escaping death himself, Accad is the only witness to that client's assassination and the only person who knows about the extortion. Circumstantial evidence leads police to believe Accad himself may have been behind the murder, and a corrupt detective does all he can to manipulate facts and evidence to show Accad's guilt. Marwan Accad's quest to uncover evidence to clear his name while trying to avoid being killed himself, leads him to a journey of healing deep wounds from his past and discovering God's love.

The Witness is an exciting, page-turning thriller with well-researched detail that makes you feel like you are traveling through the different countries and experiencing the dramatic chases along with the characters. Although some of the conversations about God that arise between characters seem unexpected, the historical Biblical facts they contain are thought-provoking. And despite the fact that the much-anticipated conclusion is a bit abrupt, the story does provide a clear gospel message enveloped within an engrossing and highly titillating drama. I would definitely recommend Josh McDowell's The Witness as an entertaining read but also as a clever evangelistic tool.



Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Tyndale House Publishers as part of their book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Taco Salad - Phase One Friendly



In honor of Cinco de Mayo, I thought I'd post my original taco salad recipe. If you're following the Know the Cause Phase One Diet, if you're into low-carb, or if you're just a healthy eater, you'll love this recipe.

Taco Salad
1 – 1 ½ lbs grass-fed ground beef
Chopped onions & green peppers
3 cloves garlic, minced
1 can diced tomatoes (check ingredients! No sugar, etc)
Chili powder
Paprika
Cayenne pepper
Salt
Pepper
Onion Powder

Sauté onions & peppers in olive oil until clear
Brown meat, break down into very small pieces
Add diced tomatoes
Add spices
Bring to a boil
Allow to simmer on Low 30 minutes, until liquid is reduced
Add garlic

Guacamole
1 avocado, diced
3 grape tomatoes
Green onion, roughly chopped tops & bottoms
2 cloves garlic, minced
Juice of ½ lemon
Salt
Mix together in Magic Bullet with Cross Blade,
Using Short Cup

Serve over a bed of leafy greens, grape tomatoes, and shredded yogurt cheese. Top with a dollop of real sour cream. Serves 3-4, depending on portion size.

Think Outside the Box - Snack Bar Recipe


For those of you who enjoy trail mix-type bars, I thought this recipe that I adapted from TBS Dinner & A Movie's "Cramming for the Bar" is a yummy alternative to those pre-packaged "healthy" snack bars with all the added sugar and grain. If you're following the Know the Cause Phase One Diet, or if you're just a healthy eater, you'll love this recipe.

Healthy Snack Bars
No Grain, No Sugar


Ingredients:
• 2 1/2 cup dried unsweetened cranberries and other berries
• 1/2 cup raw sunflower seeds
• 1 cup raw almond slices
• 1 cup raw cashews
• 1/4 cup raw pecans
• 1/4 cup raw pumpkin seeds
• 1/2 cup ground flax seed
• 1 cup unsweetened dried coconut
• 1 teaspoon ground cinnamon
• 1/2 teaspoon salt (optional)
• 5 tablespoons agave syrup or raw unpasteurized honey
• 1/4 cup Tropical Traditions Gold Label Virgin Coconut Oil

Directions:
1. Combine the dried fruit in a food processor. Pulse mixture 10-15 times until a ball forms. Add the remaining dry ingredients and continue pulsing until the nuts are chopped and the mixture begins to come together. Scrape the mixture into a large bowl and add the oil and honey and knead 5 minutes until the mixture holds its shape in a ball.

2. To form the health food bars, line a cookie sheet with plastic wrap and press the mixture forcefully into the pan. Place another piece of plastic wrap over the top and then use a large rolling pin to compress the mixture into a solid block. Alternatively you can press into small cake molds or wrap in foil and twist tightly into cylinders.

3. Cut into bars. Bars can be left plain or coated in your favorite choice (i.e. sesame seeds, poppy seeds, sunflower seeds, dehydrated coconut, green tea Mache, powdered cocoa, etc.) Freeze bars for 30 minutes and then wrap individually and keep refrigerated for longest shelf life.

Monday, May 3, 2010

Happy Happy Birthday Cake

Chocolate Fudgy Bundt Cake
No grain, No sugar
Adapted from Hannah Byers’ Original Chocolate Fudge Almond Butter Cake Recipe

2 cups almond butter
4 eggs
1 cup raw unpasteurized honey
1 tsp. baking soda

8 oz. unsweetened (100% cocoa) chocolate
2 sticks butter
1 cup xylitol* (or more or less to taste)
*This recipe is meant to have ½ cup raw honey in the chocolate mix, which would make the cake MUCH more moist. See Notes below for more info.

Preheat oven to 350 degrees
Melt butter, chocolate squares, and xylitol in a pot over low heat.
Mix almond butter, eggs, honey, and baking soda with mixer until smooth.
Pour in chocolate 2/3 of chocolate mixture, and beat until mixed.

Pour into a bundt cake pan, greased with extra virgin coconut oil and lightly coated with coconut flour. Bake for approx. 50 minutes at 350 degrees (if you use all honey instead of using xylitol in the chocolate mixture, you will probably need to bake up to 10 minutes longer)
Allow to cool 20 minutes, then flip out onto serving plate.
Reheat remaining chocolate mixture and drizzle over top.
Add fresh strawberries and/or raspberries to center.
Add a dollop of heavy whipping cream, whipped with stevia added, to taste

You can also divide ingredients for cake batter in half (as in Hannah’s original recipe) and pour into two round cake pans lined with parchment paper. Then you can make a filling and ice the top. The following is a recipe for filling/icing. Or you can just half the recipe and bake as brownies, too!

Icing/Filling:
1 8oz. cream cheese
1 stick butter
¼ cup raw unpasteurized honey
3 T. unsweetened cocoa, optional for chocolate icing (or more to taste)
You can also add heavy whipping cream and beat for an extended period to make it fluffier.

Notes:
1. I tried making this in the round pans and greasing the pans with coconut oil but the cake STILL stuck due to the gooiness of the honey. My MIL makes wedding cakes and advised me to line with parchment paper. You can’t do this in a bundt cake pan though. So you just have to carefully work it out of the pan before it’s cooled too much.

2. Almond butter can be expensive, but I do not recommend peanut butter because this is a healthy recipe and peanuts contain mycotoxins which are extremely harmful to the body. Cashew butter can also be used, which is less expensive. You can make your own almond butter (which will save a lot if you find a good price on almonds. Sam’s Club has 3lb. bags of plain unroasted almonds for $10) by putting almonds in a food processor, adding a small amount of almond oil, and mixing until a buttery texture.

3. You can substitute the xylitol in the chocolate mixture for ½ cup raw honey. I opted for xylitol because there was already so much honey in the cake, and honey is very high on the glycemic index, especially for people with diabetes, PCOD, thyroid disease, obesity, and other endocrine diseases.

4. Because this is a healthy recipe, I strongly recommend using eggs from free range, organic hens that are NOT fed grains; butter and other dairy products that are from grass-fed organic dairy; raw, unpasteurized organic honey; and organic ingredients whenever possible.

5. For more information on mycotoxins and why I avoid grain and sugar, please refer to Know the Cause

Monday, April 26, 2010

Ransomed Dreams by Sally John


A book review

Sheridan Montgomery, the wife of Eliot Montgomery, former U.S. Ambassador to Venezuela, has gone from her dream life to her worst nightmare after her husband was seriously wounded in a shooting. She felt she had lost everything - her husband, her career, her peace of mind, and nearly all contact with the outside world - in a matter of mere minutes. Choosing to retreat to a remote Mexican village to escape the trauma of the incident and to care for her disabled husband, she thought she had put distance between herself and her worst fears. But when her father's failing health and her sister's plea to return home forces her to leave her safety zone and her dependent husband, the realities of her strained family relationships, the disappointments of her marriage, discoveries about her parents' pasts, and the feelings she has developed for her savior Luke Traynor are just some of the realities she must face before she can find herself again.

For anyone who thinks that fiction is simply an indulgence to escape reality, this book will be a huge surprise. The story will resonate with anyone who has ever found himself in the midst of unexpected and disappointing life circumstances and asked, "How did I get here, and how can I escape?" As a person whose life has taken dramatic turns in the area of my health, I empathized with the struggles of both Sheridan's character, who feels forced to swallow the bitter pill of a life lost, and that of her husband Eliot, who is trapped by his body and paralyzed with fear that he will end up alone. But not until they reach the end of themselves and turn back to God, do they find peace to reconcile damaged relationships and rediscover their love for each other. The story is dramatic and action-packed, but it is also full of life-changing truths. This is surely one work of fiction that will be worth your time!

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Tyndale House Publishers as part of their book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Wednesday, March 10, 2010

"Gigi's Big Break" - Sheila Walsh's Gigi, God's Little Princess


A Children's DVD Review:

"Gigi's Big Break" is a two-story DVD about Gigi, the main character from Sheila Walsh's children's books. In the first story, Gigi breaks a vase but blames it on her pet cat. When her mom doubts her story, Gigi embellishes it to convince her, but the lies continue to grow until Gigi can no longer bear it and finally confesses. Her parents help her see the damage that lying can do.

The second story begins with Gigi learning that she is going to be a big sister. Gigi's first response is, "Why?" She's used to being the only child and the center of their world. Afraid that her parents will no longer love her when the baby arrives, she plans to run away and live with her best friend. But Mom and Dad reassure her their love for her will never change, and she soon discovers the joy of being a big sister.

I am an adult woman with no children, but I enjoy a lot of animated children's movies. This is also my first encounter with the Gigi series. Gigi is quite a self-centered "drama queen" with a vivid and outrageous imagination. But she is quick to learn from her mistakes and grasp the Bible lesson found in her experiences. Although the animation is certainly not the quality most children are used to seeing today, and the voice of Gigi is actually quite annoying, the bright colors and music, as well as the story itself are sure to capture the attention of young school-age children. And the biblical principles taught in the amusing stories are certainly valuable for character building. For those reasons, I would recommend this DVD to friends with young daughters.

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this DVD free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their BookSneeze.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Tuesday, March 9, 2010

Tabitha Who?


"Now you are the body of Christ, and each one of you is a part of it." I Corinthians 12:27

"With all your talent and potential, you're gonna do great things for God one day!" I heard this repeatedly as I was growing up. My competitive/achiever nature often caused me to stand out among my peers, and there was always another award to add to my list of accomplishments. I had big goals and high hopes for my future. That all changed when I became The Sick Girl.

Now my biggest achievements are having the strength to fold last week's laundry, empty the dishwasher for the first time in 3 days, or mop the kitchen floor for only the second time in four months (no, I'm not kidding!). My current successes would be considered failures by most. I may not even see another human being, besides my husband, for a week at a time. How then can I ever expect to do these "great things for God?"

God spoke to me recently through Sheila Walsh's new book. She talks about the story of Tabitha in Acts 9:36-42. If you're wondering, "Tabitha who?" it's because those 7 verses are the only mention of her in the Bible. She never did anything amazing that would stick out in our minds, and we certainly don't think of her when we name the great characters of the Bible. Yet, when she died, the Christians in her home town were devastated. They went so far as to send two men to track down Peter and ask him to come back right away. When Peter returned and found all the widows standing around grieving, he raised her from the dead through the power of Christ!

Why her? She wasn't an apostle or a prominent leader in the church. All she did was sew clothes for the poor. Verse 36 describes her as "always doing good and helping the poor." That's nice, but it's not a great work of God. Or is it? Maybe the things we consider important and worthy of notice are not quite as important to God. That's an epiphany for me! My religious background was always about what I was doing to serve the Lord. It was about being at the church "every time the doors are open," going on weekly visitation, and singing solos before the entire congregation - all things I'm not physically able to do anymore. Does that mean I've missed my chance to fulfill God's purpose for my life? The Enemy would like for me to think so!

But the Bible tells me that God has a purpose for me and a place in the body of Christ where I can serve. These days that may not be a high-profile position in my church or community. Maybe it's being an encourager to others also dealing with chronic illness by praying for them, saying an uplifting word on Facebook, being honest about my struggles through this blog, or making a Prayer Shawl for them in my church's knitting ministry (kind of like Tabitha was doing in her church!).

But let's not miss the end of Tabitha's story. Verse 42 tells us that the story of her resurrection "became known all over Joppa, and many people believed in the Lord." Because she became sick and died, Jesus Christ received glory, and many precious souls were saved. What a testimony! Isn't that what all believers are called to do with our time on Earth?

Dear Lord, help me to remember that You have a purpose for my life every single day. Even though I may not feel like an important contributor to Your work, I will trust that you will use my humble offering - right here where I am - to glorify Your name and cause others to believe in You.

Wednesday, March 3, 2010

"Beautiful Things Happen When a Woman Trusts God" by Sheila Walsh


A Book Review

Fear: a tool used by the Enemy to keep us from God's purpose for our lives. That fear often paralyzes us, keeping us from having the courage to believe God has it all under control. But as Sheila Walsh shares the story of her own struggles with fear and the journey of several Bible characters who also had to overcome fear to come to a place of faith, we find that beautiful things do indeed happen when we begin to trust God.

I am not usually one who enjoys non-fiction books, but as someone with chronic illness who struggles daily with the subject of trusting God, I was inexplicably drawn to this topic. And I soon discovered God had some amazing lessons in store as Sheila shared her heart through these pages. I was captivated by how closely I identified with both Sheila and the biblical figures as they wrestled with their fear of being too broken for God to use, fear of allowing others to see their failures, or fear that they may have missed their chance in life to do something for God. I feel that anyone who reads this amazing book will come away knowing that, like Sheila, "all I have to offer anyone else is a life surrendered to Christ so that his beauty and grace shine through my brokenness" (p.15).

Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Thomas Nelson Publishers as part of their BookSneeze.com book review bloggers program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

Friday, February 5, 2010

Pursued


"Why do I always have to be the one that pursues people? Sometimes I want to be pursued!" This was my outcry as I recently explained to a friend how sad and frustrating it can be trying to make friends with women when you have two "strikes" against you: 1. chronic illness and 2. no children. It took me years to figure out what the problem was; I kept wondering what I was doing wrong. Was I not friendly enough? Did I talk too much? Was I too self-centered? Should I have done more to reach out? But then I started to notice how women with children were always getting together with women who had children. They would go to the mall together, take the kids to the zoo, or invite them over for a lunch picnic. I tried to invite women to things that centered on their children, like a day at the beach with her kids. But I kept striking out. I figured that's just one club I will never be invited into.

But even women in different stages of life - single, married with no children, married with older or grown children - they didn't seem to connect with me either. I never got invites for a "girls' night out" or shopping trip. I even tried to have things like make-up or jewelry parties at my house so that I could interact with other women and get to know them better. It wasn't until a recent conversation with my Life Coach that my fears were confirmed: people don't want to be friends with someone who has chronic illness. It's too complicated and requires too much commitment and energy; so why bother? I realize it's more complicated to make plans with me because I need a lot of notice, don't have the stamina for a long day out, and require a lot of "paraphernalia" just to leave the house. But I just wish someone would think I was worth the extra effort.

Ironically, there have been a couple ladies who have reached out to me. But I soon learned they viewed me as a "ministry" or a "project" and not as a real friend. I guess they felt it was their duty to take me to doctor appointments or visit me in the hospital. But when it came time for the fun stuff, I never made their guest list. And those same women never seemed to have any problems of their own. They never asked me for help or prayer and never shared their frustrations about their marriage or finances. It started to feel very one-sided. I wanted to share in her life and be a friend to her. But you don't make friends with your project.

God has blessed me with a very small number of friends who have loved me through some of the most difficult times in my life. But most of these women live far away and can't interact with me in person. We talk on the phone, on Facebook, or by email, and they are a blessing in my life as I believe I am in theirs. But it's just not the same as having a day at the mall or getting mani-pedi's at the day spa. Maybe that's just too much commitment. I wish someone would think I was worth the trouble and pursue a real friendship with me.

"My friends and companions avoid me because of my wounds; my neighbors stay far away" - Psalm 38:11.

Friday, January 29, 2010

Chicken Veggie Stir-Fry

It's been an adventure for me to find and create easy Phase One (www.knowthecause.com) recipes. Here's one I came up with tonight when I needed to find something quick, using the groceries we already had in the house. Enjoy...

Chicken Veggie Stir-Fry

2 boneless, skinless chicken breasts, cut into chunks
Mrs. Dash Original
Salt & Pepper
Sesame Oil
2 medium yellow onions, chopped
Fresh broccoli florets
(or chunks of any other fresh veggies, i.e
carrots, bell peppers, cauliflower, zucchini, etc)
2 ice cubes

Saute onions on medium heat in generous amount of sesame oil, allowing onions to brown and carmelize (20 minutes) You may need to periodically add more sesame oil to keep them from sticking to the pan.
Cover chicken w/ salt, freshly-ground pepper, and generous amount of Mrs. Dash.
Add more sesame oil.
Brown chicken thoroughly, stirring often.
When chicken is cooked through, add fresh veggies and 2 cubes of ice.
Cover and turn on low heat. Allow veggies to steam for 15 minutes, soaking up flavor of onions)

This was delicious! And if you are on not on Phase One, you can add snow peas, which are yummy in stir-fry. You could also serve this over brown rice. But if you're grain-free like me, you will enjoy it just with the meat and veggies. Also, you could substitute pork, turkey, or beef for the chicken.

Thursday, December 10, 2009

Deja Vu All Over Again

I've had so many major improvements in my health over the past few months. I've lost 32 pounds, gotten off several medications, seen a drastic reduction in the frequency and severity of my cataplexy attacks, and had a dramatic increase in my energy levels. So, I really didn't see this one coming: the dreaded pain in my side is back. I noticed it creeping in a few weeks ago but hoped it was just my imagination. But one night at bedtime it was so severe that I could not sleep despite the strong sedative I take at night for my narcolepsy. That's when I knew it was really back.

For four years I endured daily pain in my left side. It was a constant pull of heaviness, as if I had a small barbell inside me. Then, at various times throughout the day the sharp, stabbing pains would come. For several days each month the stabbing pain was constant and so severe at times that I would become nauseated. The only way I could function was to stay medicated with various narcotics. Over time, I actually became dependent on the narcotics. The diagnosis was endometriosis. And I had several surgeries to "remove" the tissue that was growing all over my bladder, colon, and other internal organs. But the pain kept coming back with a vengeance. Finally, I found a reproductive endocrinologist that believed most of my pain was not from endometriosis but from two pelvic hernias. He performed a surgery to repair the hernias but also removed endometriosis by cutting out the tissue along with the areas underneath, rather than just by burning it off, which is the typical procedure performed in these cases. After healing from the surgery, I was completely pain-free for over two years.

But with my recent change in treatment for thyroid disease from the substandard drug levoxyl to natural Armour thyroid, my body began performing normal hormone functions again. Unfortunately, I believe this has caused the endometriosis to begin growing again. I haven't had this confirmed by a doctor yet, but I recognize the old, familiar pain. I've been down all week with the pain, unable to stand or walk around much without making it worse. I've tried heating pads and even strong anti-inflammatories that only upset my stomach. But nothing's working. Which is why I'm blogging about this at 2am, unable to sleep again. My doctor tried to blame the pain on "muscle spasms" due to my being overweight, which is classic behavior when doctors don't want to bother with a proper diagnosis. After all, overweight women with unknown symptoms and unexplained pain are surely merely suffering from depression and symptoms caused directly from obesity. Oh, brother! What a cop-out! I'm going back to him tomorrow to strongly suggest he pull his head out of his hindquarters and take me seriously this time. Considering my extensive history, which he didn't bother to consider at my last visit, it's certainly probable I'm dealing with a relapse in my endometriosis.

But this time I'm not having surgery, and I refuse to become addicted to narcotics again. I believe we need to consider my progesterone levels, although I am already taking natural progesterone, and we should probably do an ultrasound to make sure there's no cyst or tumor and that the graft from my hernia repair hasn't become dislodged or anything. And I plan to get a high-quality curcumin (which comes from the spice turmeric) supplement to help with the pain. Apparently I still have some fungus growing in my body, so I will continue to rotate my anti-fungal supplements (olive leaf extract and caprylic acid) and keep sticking to the Phase One anti-fungal diet I've been doing for over 3 months (http://www.knowthecause.com). It would be easy to let this really discourage me and cause me to throw my hands up and surrender to the drugs and surgery solutions the doctors so quickly throw at problems like this. But I know I'm on the right track, although I clearly have a long way to go.

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

Easy Button - The Conclusion


So, whatever happened with my search for the Easy Button? I'm sure you're dying to know "the rest of the story." I am too! I don't think there IS an end. But there's definitely a lesson in there somewhere. I've been praying for over a year now that God would "show me great and mighty things I do not know" in regard to my health, our business, and my marriage. If you've read previous posts, you know I have these "333" sightings all the time and use them to remind me of Jeremiah 33:3. Each time I see the triple 3's, I pray that request to God. The past 18 months have been very difficult and very uncomfortable. In my experience, if you keep trusting God through times like these, it usually results in God doing a great work in your life. But I'll admit it: I can be impatient. And God and I have had some pretty heated conversations over the past several months. I even asked HIM about the Easy Button. And here's what He told me:

"Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light." Matthew 11:28-30

He kept giving me that passage, and I didn't get it at first. But then I changed my outlook and decided to trust that God had a purpose in all of this. I still don't know everything He has planned, but I started to see that he'd been answering my prayers all along. Without the recent seriousness of my health condition, I don't think I would have had the motivation to take charge of my health like I have. After just a few months, I have seen amazing improvements in my body. I believe there are better days ahead. When we moved from our beautiful home, I was hurt and angry. But the house we live in now is within 15 minutes of our clients and my doctors. And we live within a few miles of all the health food stores where I do a lot of my food shopping. We have a much smaller yard and home to take care of. This has taken a huge amount of stress off my husband, who had to drive at least an hour to get home from work every day, to take me to the doctor, and to make a special trip out here to get the food I need from the health food store. If I have an emergency at home, he can get to me in minutes, and he's been getting home earlier each evening.

There have been some other opportunities in the area of our business that have opened up because of our move, although we're still waiting to see how God works this out. And although I still don't have the answers about why we don't seem to have a support system in our lives to help out with the heavy burden my health puts on our lives, I am hopeful that the Lord will give us His divine revelation on practical ways we can lessen that burden on my husband's life. God has blessed me with the opportunity to work with a Christian life coach, and she gave me a great word picture to give me hope in this area. She explained that people often say, "that's the last straw," in referring to that circumstance that causes someone to say like Popeye, "That's all I can stands; I can't stands no more!" But what if we could remove things, one straw at a time - one burden at a time? We don't have to solve all our problems with some big epiphany all at once. Sometimes it's just one little solution at a time. And that sounds do-able to me.

So, although I didn't find a big red button to push, I'm starting to understand that quiet voice that keeps telling me, "Give it to Me; let Me carry that weight for you. Just rest in My loving arms and trust." His yoke is easy, and His burden is light.

Wednesday, November 11, 2009

How the Church Can Minister to the Chronically Ill

Ministering to the Chronically Ill: 20 Ways That Take 20 Minutes
by Lisa Copen

Rest Ministries (www.restministries.com), the largest Christian organization that specifically serves the chronically ill, recently did a survey and asked people to "List some of the programs or resources a church could offer to make it more inviting and comfortable." They have provided a sampling of some of the 800+ responses, all of which could be done in 20 minutes or less.

1. Encouragement emails.
2. Make sure the handicapped stalls in the restroom are functioning and clean.
3. Padded chairs or cushions, room for wheelchairs, and plenty of room for my family to sit with me.
4. Be open-minded about a support group for the chronically ill like HopeKeepers. It would make me feel very special, knowing that there is an understanding of people's needs that are not always visible.
5. Add more disabled parking, even if they are temporary spots.
6. Educate the ushers that people arriving late may have difficulty walking or getting out of cars and will need some assistance.
7. Ask volunteers to call people with chronic illness just to check on them when they don't make it to services.
8. When suppers are given, recognize that I may need help getting my meal--or at least understand that I won't be able to wait in a long line.
9. Be gentle when giving people big hugs. It can topple over or hurt a person.
10. Have a video tape of the service, not just a live web cast. Not all our computers work that well.
11. Make sure that the church doors aren't too difficult to open or at least have mechanical assistance if they're unusually heavy.
12. Stop telling me that if I really believed and had faith I would be healed by now. Please don't insist how good I look, because I know for a fact that I look terrible and miserable that day.
13. Offer me ways to serve within the church that can be performed regularly, but not on a set schedule. I still want to contribute, but I need some flexibility so that I can do a job when I feel well enough to do so.
14. Have sermon notes available so I can listen later or even just review what I didn't catch the first time.
15. Acknowledge National Invisible Chronic Illness Awareness Week. Rest Ministries has a nice book list of top 100 Christian books for the chronically ill. It would make a nice display in your bookstore that week.
16. Just mention chronic illness occasionally! Don't forget to talk about it in sermons as one of the challenges many people face just like unemployment or divorce.
17. Have Christian volunteers from church that will clean house for small fee. Some have offered to clean my house, but I cannot accept charity yet, but neither can I afford to pay a regular house cleaning service.
18. Help with some of the small costs of providing encouraging books and resources for the church library the chronically ill can check out.
19. Remember how many caregivers are in the church, not just caregiving for their parents, but also for their spouses or ill children.
20. Have copies of sermons for free on CD or computer.
Find over 500 ways to encourage a chronically ill friend in the book "Beyond Casseroles: 505 Ways to Encourage a Chronically Ill Friend" at www.beyondcasseroles.com
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I know that some days can seem like more than you can handle. Remember that the Lord promises to never leave you or forsake you. Cling to that. Even when you don't feel his presence He is still there. I tell my 6-year-old son that God is working "under cover." I know I am each day, especially righr now!

Blessings,

Lisa Copen, Rest Ministries Founder
Rest Ministries Chronic Illness Pain Support

Tuesday, November 10, 2009

Easy Button - Continued

The whole object of my going up to Michigan to be with my family was to give my husband a break from being my full-time caregiver and to get a "jump-start" on my new "detox" program, right? It was supposed to be like the Easy Button. But I think we pressed the wrong button. Because shortly after I got to Michigan we found out that we were going to have to move.

Now, in order to understand the full impact this news had on us, you would have to know a few things: 1) We have moved A LOT in our ten years of marriage; probably more than most people move in a lifetime, and we were DONE with moving. 2)Our house and our property was our "dream house." We had always talked about living on 10 acres out in the country, but we thought we would have to find a piece of land and slowly build a home on it. But when we first drove up to this house, I just could not believe it; the perfect piece of land with a beautiful house already built on it! So we had poured our hearts into this home and this land. We painted most of the rooms and even painted a football field on the wall of the office, where we hung all of our football memorabilia. My husband laid a beautiful paver patio, with a walkway leading out to the pool we put in. He made me a prayer garden under a big tree in the front yard. We had stocked our pond with hundreds of fish and had been feeding them every night and watching them grow. My husband had made me a tree swing in the back yard. We had planted trees in memorial to the babies we had lost. We had fallen in love with our home and put down roots for the FIRST time in our marriage. This was devastating. 3)We had less than 3 weeks to pack up and move, and we had no where to move. 4)I was in no condition to pack, and I was 1000 miles away!

I think I cried for 48 hours straight. And I spent the next few weeks with a giant knot in my stomach and a sharp pain in my chest. I couldn't breathe. I couldn't think. I couldn't even pray. I could not fathom why God would allow this to happen to us in the midst of all of the other major things we were experiencing. And I remember thinking, "One of us is going to have a heart attack or a nervous breakdown." I honestly was afraid for my husband's emotional well-being; he'd already been at his breaking point before we got this latest news. I mean, that's why I was in Michigan in the first place. He was already overwhelmed, and the last thing he needed was to make the biggest move of our lives ALL BY HIMSELF. I shared my concerns with a couple of people from my church and even asked them to please check in with him because I was so concerned. NOT A SINGLE PERSON FROM OUR CHURCH CONTACTED EITHER OF US IN ANY WAY DURING THOSE 3 WEEKS THAT WE WERE GOING THROUGH SOME OF THE MOST DIFFICULT DAYS OF OUR LIVES. NOT ONE. This broke my heart even more.

To Be Continued...

Thursday, November 5, 2009

Where's The Easy Button?


These past few months have been very hard. My health continued to get progressively worse, we were losing a lot of business and were still unable to pay ourselves a regular income all this year, and my poor husband just could not get a break from all the stress and responsibility of running a struggling business, being a caregiver to his wife, and basically taking care of everything that needs done to run a household. On top of all my other health problems, my doctors decided that I have a serious liver disease that was affecting my heart and would apparently eventually kill me. The worst part was that my husband and I were dealing with all of this alone. Despite moving our church membership to a church closer to home, we had not been able to connect with anyone in the church and still had no support system in dealing with all of this. We were burned out, stressed out, and just plain out of ideas on where to turn or what to do. And all I kept thinking about in my mind was, "We really need one of those 'Easy Buttons'!" You know: the ones from the office supply store commercial where you just press that big red Easy Button and help rains down upon you from the sky.

I felt like my husband I and were literally on fire in the middle of a crowd, and that we were jumping up and down hollering for help while everyone in the crowd just walked on by, talking and laughing and going about their business. We just felt like everything was falling apart and no help was in sight. I know that everyone deals with problems and struggles in life, but we were constantly being hit with one after the other. And then my health status went from "deteriorating" to "crisis" mode with the latest news about my liver and heart. And we knew something had to change drastically. So I made an executive decision that I was gonna get off as many pharmaceuticals as possible in order to give my liver a break, fire all my doctors except for my primary and my narcolepsy specialist, and I was going to detox my body and really focus on putting natural, healthy things in.

This type of program takes a lot of time, a lot of money, a lot of support and help, and a lot of energy. I certainly had the time, but none of the other things. And the way I was eating, which was the most important part of my "treamtent" (Phase One antifungal diet from knowthecause.com) required that almost everything be made "from scratch. That means nothing that comes in a can, a bottle, a package, or from a restaurant. I'm talking about the kind of cooking where you have to use every kitchen appliance, utensil, pot, and pan you own just to make one meal. I didn't mind the restrictions on eating so much, but I was literally to the point where I could barely stand up for more than a couple minutes at a time. There were times when I would start to black out whenever I stood up and I barely had enough strength to walk 10 feet. There were a few occasions where I barely made it into the kitchen, so weak and shaky that I had to just lie down on the kitchen floor for 15-20 minutes until I could get what I came in there for. And if I could muster the strength to prepare myself some kind of food, there was NO WAY I could clean up the mess I had made. So I would just have to leave it. Me. Leave a mess.

After coming home finding me lying on the floor, not having eaten or drank anything all day, my husband realized we couldn't do this all by ourselves anymore. So he asked my dad to drive 20 hours down from Michigan to take me up there for a few weeks so that my parents could help out. So I packed bags, boxes, and coolers full of food; all kinds of kitchen appliances and utensils; our puppy, his food, his kennel and other paraphernalia; and enough clothes and stuff to last a month. We had no idea when I would be able to come back home. And it was a tearful, anxious goodbye.

To Be Continued...

Thursday, October 29, 2009

Wahoo! Cheesecake

A lot of people say that the Phase One (www.knowthecause.com) diet is too hard or too restrictive. But I think that if you have delicious foods to eat, made by replacing "forbidden" ingredients, you will find that it's not as difficult as you think. I had this cheesecake during my first 30 days when I was staying with my parents - my mom made it for me - and it was heavenly! Tonight is my first time making it myself, and I can smell the crust baking right now. Here's the recipe for a grain-free, sugar-free, Phase One-friendly cheesecake:

Crust
2 cups finely ground walnuts (other nuts can be used)
3 T. organic, unsalted butter
2 T. cinnamon
Stevia, to taste (optional) You will need very little as it goes a long way

Combine ground nuts, butter, cinnamon, and stevia using a pastry blender or fork
Press into 9-10" pan
Bake at 350 degrees for 12 minutes

Filling
12 oz. organic cream cheese
2 eggs
1 T. lemon juice
1/2 cup organic heavy whipping cream
Stevia, to taste

Combine cream cheese, Stevia, lemon, and 1 egg; blend until smooth
Add 2nd egg
Fold in whipping cream
Pour into crust
Bake at 350 degrees for 35-40 minutes
Cool to room temperature (top will crack)
Refrigerate minimum 2 hours.
Top with fresh berries

The crust just came out of the oven, and it smells great! I like to let my cream cheese sit out to get to room temperature before mixing, but it should be ready now. If you make this recipe, let me know how you liked it!

Tuesday, October 27, 2009

Roasted Cinnamon Almonds

People have asked me for some Know the Cause Phase One Diet recipes. The following is actually in the cookbook that you can order from knowthecause.com, but I'll post it here. It's one of my favorites because it's very simple and something I can take with me to the movies, on a road trip, or to a sports event so that I won't be tempted to eat something at one of the concessions:

Roasted Cinnamon Almonds

1 egg white
1 tsp cold water
4 cups whole, raw almonds
1/4 cup stevia powder
1/4 tsp salt
1 T. cinnamon
Coconut oil

Beat egg white and cold water until frothy.
Mix in nuts until all are moistened

Mix dry ingredients in separate bowl.
Sprinkle over nuts until coated.
Grease jelly roll pan (small cookie sheet) with coconut oil.
Spread nuts evenly over pan.
Bake at 250 degrees for 30 minutes, then turn nuts over and bake another 30 minutes

I've also used pecans for this recipe, and they were very good also.

Thursday, October 22, 2009

To Make a Long Story Short...

The past month has been very eventful, and I know it's been a long time since I posted - shame on me! I thought it would be a good idea to give you an update on my life and health. Inquiring minds want to know, apparently. Where to begin? Well...it all began in the spring when a friend of a Facebook friend contacted me and referred me to this website. With all my health issues, the one thing I thought was under control was my thyroid disease. But I soon learned that I, like hundreds of thousands of thyroid patients, was on the wrong medication. I found a doctor in my area who prescribes natural thyroid hormone and also believes in taking elimination of symptoms into consideration when adjusting medication levels, rather than just thyroid lab tests. After 8 consecutive months of gaining up to 10lbs/month, I immediately stopped gaining weight. My new doc also started me on natural progesterone to treat my Polycystic Ovarian Disease (PCOD).

Over the next few months, my doctor continued to monitor my symptoms and my hormone levels, adjusting my medicines accordingly. I almost immediately saw a major reduction in two symptoms I'd been plagued with for years: excessive sweating and severe digestive problems. However, I did develop some new heart symptoms which included an elevated heart rate, chest pain, and sudden drops in my blood pressure that caused me to pass out or fall down. I saw a cardiologist and had several tests done to determine the cause of this. We're still not 100% sure of the cause of these symptoms, and I continue to have episodes with my heart from time to time. I'm told there is nothing wrong with my heart, but that I have another condition that is affecting the functioning of my heart.

In August, a friend and I began following The Maker's Diet by Jordan Rubin, which is a way of eating that follows biblical principles concerning food. I lost a few pounds doing this but nothing major. But then, at the urging of my mom, I started watching a television show called "Know the Cause" on the Christian Television Network. The host, Doug Kaufmann, teaches that most diseases actually come from fungus, mold, and mildew rather than bacteria and viruses. He has authored several books on the subject and also has a website: www.knowthecause.com. The more information I heard and saw, the more I believed that this concept made a LOT of sense. I had been urging my doctors for years to find a commonality among all my diagnoses, believing firmly that one person could not have so many separate diseases without them being somehow related. I wanted to "know the cause" instead of just treating the symptoms with drugs, drugs, and more drugs. So I began the Phase One antifungal diet on September 1st.

In the past several weeks I have lost 25 pounds, I have gotten off 4 medications, and I have seen a reduction in the severity and frequency of my heart symptoms and my cataplexy attacks. This is a miracle! For the first time in my adult life I feel like I am getting better! I can see actual tangible evidence of an improvement in my health. That's not to say that I am cured, by any means. I have a LONG way to go before I could ever consider referring to myself as healthy. And there are still serious health issues involving my heart and liver that need to be addressed. But I believe I am on the right path. And that includes continuing to rid my body of mold, mildew, and fungus; getting off as many pharmaceutical drugs as possible, putting only the purest, natural substances into my body - whether it be food, beauty products, cleaning products, etc.; and supplementing with high quality vitamins and nutritional supplements, tailored to my particular conditions and symptoms.

This is absolutely the hardest thing I have ever done in my life, but I am convinced that I am doing the right thing. And I believe that anyone dealing with a chronic health issue can benefit from the information at Know the Cause and from Doug Kaufmann. Please continue to keep me and my husband in your prayers as this continues to be one of the most difficult times in our lives.

This I can say with 100% assurance, though: God's promises are true, and He is faithful. Take Him up on His offers:

"Call to me, and I will answer you, and show you great and mighty things,which you do not know." Jeremiah 33:3

"If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask of God, who gives to all liberally and without reproach, and it will be given to him." James 1:5

Monday, September 28, 2009

Cataplexy 101

I was surprised recently to learn that most of my immediate family did not know what to do when I had a cataplexy attack at a family gathering yesterday. The following is some information I pieced together from various sources, including my own experience, to explain what cataplexy is and what to do if I have an attack. Most doctors have never even heard of it and have no idea what to do. I started carrying information sheets around with me to hand out to people and especially to give to all my doctors. Feel free to duplicate this information; we need to educate people about this disease.

WHAT IS CATAPLEXY?
Cataplexy is a feature of the sleep disorder narcolepsy. It is a condition whereby the sufferer, or cataplectic, experiences a total loss of muscle control and postural tone. It is likely to be more severe when a person is tired, under stress, or experiencing strong emotions. It is extremely unpredictable both in severity and frequency. The attacks do not necessarily have a fixed schedule; they may occur occasionally but may also occur multiple times a day. Patients may be prescribed antidepressants to control the attacks and may also take a night-time medicine called Xyrem, the pharmaceutical equivalent of GHB, to produce the quality of sleep needed to help control the attacks. It is important for cataplexy sufferers to adhere to a strict sleep and medicine schedule to avoid severe, prolonged attacks.

WHAT HAPPENS DURING A CATAPLEXY ATTACK?
Cataplexy is often confused with epilepsy. The nature of the attacks may vary from individual to individual. The following characteristics of an attack can occur alone or in combinations with others: perceptible slacking of the facial muscles, dropping of the jaw or head, knee buckling, slumping of the shoulders, slurring of speech, blurred vision, or falling to the floor. When falling to the ground, the cataplectic may appear to lose consciousness but simply remains motionless for a few minutes before resuming normal behaviors or drifting into some prolonged sleep. There is no loss of consciousness or awareness of surroundings; the person can still hear, feel, and sometimes see things that are going on during the attack.

WHAT CAUSES A CATAPLEXY ATTACK?
Cataplexy is often caused by strong emotions such as exhilaration, surprise, fear, anger, stress, shock, laughter, anxiety, etc., but these do not have to be present for an attack to occur. For this reason, a person suffering from cataplexy will not benefit from “revival methods” often used on an unconscious person. Actions such as yelling, slapping, or shaking should be avoided, and sternum rubs or ammonia inhalants will not be effective and can, in fact, make the attack worse by causing anxiety to the patient.

WHAT SHOULD BE DONE FOR A PATIENT DURING AN ATTACK?
1. It is most important to stay calm, remembering that the cataplectic is conscious and aware of your behavior and that your anxiety can affect the severity or length of the attack.
2. Be sure the individual will not injure themselves by falling and that their airway is not obstructed by the position of their neck/head. There is no need to move the person unless one of the above circumstances presents itself.
3. Unless the person has stopped breathing, has no pulse, or has injured herself in some way, CALL THEIR EMERGENCY CONTACT BEFORE CALLING 911. This contact will know more about the disease than almost any medical personnel and can advise you more on how to respond. If they feel emergency medical personnel should be called, that is the time to call.
4. Avoid drawing undue attention to the situation, which can cause embarrassment and discomfort to the individual.
5. Sufferers have different preferences about what onlookers can do to help. Some prefer to be left alone, while others my need to be supported or helped up. It is common for the person to prefer being left alone to recover of their own accord.

HOW DOES THIS DISEASE AFFECT LIFESTYLE?
Cataplexy can be disruptive to daily living. It can cause embarrassment, loss of confidence, and even detrimental consequences to the patient. Further, it can impair most desired activities such as driving, working out at the gym, or even holding a child, because one can never know when the attack might present itself. Because this is a rare condition, most medical personnel will not recognize it or know how to treat it. For this reason, the patient and their regular caregiver should be relied upon greatly for information about both the condition and also that patient’s particular regimen of treatment.

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