Living on the OTHER Side of the Bridge

I've been reading Don Piper's book Heaven is Real since I went to hear him speak at a little church down at the beach several weeks ago. His first book 90 Minutes in Heaven really ministered to me, as I mentioned in a previous post called "Heaven's Sounding Sweeter." In this recent book he talks more about his life after the car accident and how he discovered that when he literally crossed the bridge at the time of the accident, he left the life he had known and began a new life that included a lot of pain, as well as many physical, emotional, and spiritual challenges. He goes on to use the term "crossing a bridge" as a metaphor for the changes we all face in life when we leave the life we knew behind and enter a new life. (i.e. leaving your parents home and going to college; leaving your single life and entering marriage; leaving a career for retirement, etc).

I had to stop reading the book. I needed time to really chew on the concept of crossing bridges in my own life. I believe I crossed a major bridge in my life at the age of 16 when my health began to fail. I went from being an athletic, energetic achiever to a sick person almost overnight. As my health has progressed from bad to worse over the 16 years that followed, I struggled with the question of my purpose in life. I kept waiting for this major event to happen that would make it clear why God has allowed my life to so drastically change. Then I began to live in a fantasy world in my mind where I was completely healthy again and things were back to "normal." It was only about a year-and-a-half ago that I actually accepted the idea that God may never allow me to regain my health in this life and that my purpose may be to be an encouragement to others that are walking through difficult circumstances. This was a major spiritual and emotional breakthrough for me that changed my entire outlook on life. But something still wasn't right, and I didn't know what it was.

People have all kinds of advice to give me on how I should be living, how I should handle my health issues, and which passages in the Bible they feel I need them to point out to me. But in reading this book I think I've figured it out: I have accepted my poor health as a part of the life God has for me here on earth, but I don't know how to actually live this life. I don't know how to be a sick person. I don't know to live in this frail body. I'm willing to accept that I have a different life, but I just haven't learned what to do with it. I don't know what to do on the other side of the bridge.

For example, I recently began a new workout routine that includes cardio and weight training; and when I decide to do something, I commit to it 110%. I was out in the garage every single evening just really pushing myself. My husband kept telling me that I was trying to do too much, but I don't really understand the concept of "taking it slow." So just as I'm beginning to really master this new routine, I pulled a muscle in my back. I felt like I lost this entire week, and I was just worrying that I would lose so much ground not working out that it would put me right back where I was before I started. If I had acted like a person with a disease that affects my muscles and just started out really slow and worked up to the level I started at, I probably wouldn't be blogging right now with a giant blue ice pack behind me. In my mind, I often forget that I'm not someone who can physically do what others can do. I'm trying to be the person I used to be instead of the person God wants me to be right now.

So God sent someone to my home to work on my back. But she did much more than that. She reminded me that God knows right where I'm at, and he loves me just as I am. I don't have to push myself to be someone I am not capable of being. Perhaps God wants me to be still and really get to know Him in a way I could never know Him if I was running around doing all the things I used to do. He chose me to be set aside right now so that we could spend some time together while I learn how to live the life He has for me.

Show me your ways, O LORD, teach me your paths; guide me in your truth and teach me, for you are God my Savior, and my hope is in you all day long.
-Psalm 25:4-5